The Mania Lover


In the six words used to describe love “Mania” in Classical Greek is the highly aroused and passionate love. Mania as in Maniacal. Mania is the passion that leads to great and, often elaborate acts that show a great depth of feeling. This may be the need to send a dozen, dozen (144) red roses as a show of love, when for another type of person a single rose would say so much more.

This is related to the colour green and can be obsessive and possessive. It is not an accident that we say “Green with envy”. This green mania drive is possessive attachment and ownership of any love object.

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The Manipura Lover


In the six word for love from the classical Greek, the word ‘Ludens’ was used to describe carefree style of loving. In the Eastern system this would be related to the manpura chakra, the energy centre over the solar plexus and the colour yellow.

The Manipura Lover may have something of the Peter Pan’s about them in that they remain young at heart or as some might say immature. Often often the yellow time of life would be seen as adolescence when the current order is questions and rebellion is common. When the yellow phase is played out in later life we describe is as a mid life crisis.

However some people remain in the yellow phase as a perpetual life style.

Yellow-ness as a style of loving will be varied and different. The yellow drive is towards new and novel experiences that spark the intellect and catch the mind. This can lead to a butterfly like personality that lack the emotional commitment needed by other types of personality for stability. Continue reading →

The Svadisthana Love


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In Tantra you are actively raising your orgasmic energy away from you gonads (sex organs) up the shushumna (spinal column). The base chakra, or energy centra the muladara, is the site of the physical or sexual orgasm. For men working at this level this also means ejaculation. This level or orgasm, though lots of fun, is about physical release and has little to with spiritual development.

In Greek philosophy Eros is the same as Muladara and Storge is the same as Svadisthana. Continue reading →

Tantra, Sex and Unified Consciousness


We live in a universe of two halves. These two halves always act in an attempt to balance each other and are always attracted to each other. In a balanced universe, there is an equality of both. In Tantra, the balance between the male and the female roles should always be equal.

If either becomes dominant, then the practice falls out of balance and heightened orgasm will not be achieved. Continue reading →

Tantric Sex and the Eros Lover


People often ask me ‘what is the magic of Tantra?’ Eros is said to be the God of love. This is not exactly true. Eros is the God of physical love. It is from Eros that we get words like erotic and erogenous.

Sexual love, while it awakens kundalini, the serpent that sleeps at the base of the spine, only awakens it to a limited physical expression of love. It is the situation where our eyes lock “across a crowded room” and the violence of Eros’s arrow hits us so hard that we fall in heat and the limited glory of the physical contracting orgasm. Continue reading →

Orgasm: Going Beyond Your Self


Embrace the Orgasm!

The orgasm is a strange and amazing thing, wouldn’t you agree?

The Kamastutra was, for many years, the mainstay of sexual education, offering insights that suggest sexuality could be more than mere genital satiation. The science of Tantra lifts sexuality to ever higher dimensions, to discover spiritual awakening. In genital orgasm, the Prana, (bio-energy, also known as Chi) charges between the ovaries or testes and then discharges into contracting orgasm, and physical satisfaction. Continue reading →

Kamastutra and the Science of Touch


In my book “Tantra, Sex, Orgasm, and, Meditation”, just like the Kamasutra, my Tantric teacher explains about the importance of touch. Our bodies are sensory organs that allow us to interact with the world. Our ability to touch, and be touched, forms the basis of all relationships, from a hand shake, a hug, a kiss, a cuddle, to full body massage are all sensual connections that tune us into the other person. To the awake person the nature of a hand shake, in grip, firmness, and sensitivity, temperature and moisture, speak volumes about the person, and may tell us all that we need to know.

In the foreplay of sexuality we also tune into another person. The Kamasutra explains a lot about touch. In my book Vanessa shows, in practical lessons, how touch, as foreplay is a vital precursor to successful sex.

The body is beautifully designed with wonderful erogenous zones. As you explore your partner’s body try using delicate touch, so that you fingers are nothing more than a feather moving over their body. As you discover their erogenous areas try differing your touch. Add pressure and allow your fingers to learn, ask your partner for feedback. Try using the ball of your finger and the turn you hand and use the back of your nail, asked your partner what is the difference. Turn your hand and gently scratch.

The tuning into your partners body is the forerunner to Tantric practice, it should be fun and enjoyable. Of course when you have finished discovering your partner’s body it will be their turn to discover yours. When you both become skilled in each other, you can be sensual with each other at the same time.

Sean x

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Tantra: Does Size Matter?

Does Size Matter?

In the Kamasutra the issue of size is discussed at length. The sexual proportions are given the properties of an animal. So that if the man has the proportions of a horse, while the woman has the proportions of a deer, they may not be a good match as he will be too big for her and be painful. If on the other hand, she has the dimension of an elephant and he the dimensions of a deer, there may be no sensation for either, and therefore, no stimulus to raise energy.

In a spoof version of the Kamasutra, “the Irish Kamasutra” the same point was made when the reader was asked “Is it like trying to force a marshmallow into a parking meter, or like throwing a sausage up Oxford Street?” The point is well made. For sex on any level to work, the dimensions of the partners need to fit.

Now, it is true that a woman’s vaginal wall has a tremendous ability to expand a woman can give birth to a baby after all. So that often, even if a man is generously proportion, or is like an Elephant and she like a deer, she can, given appropriate preparation accommodate his girth, though length may be an issue. However, small women may not find large men a comfortable or enjoyable experience.

From an mans point of view, if the woman is too tight he can have problems with control and holding back ejaculation due to the increased friction. At the same time if the woman is too large there will be little sensation for either party. When this occurs certain position will increase stimulus.

For both men and women to maintain sexual vitality and health they need to practice daily pelvic floor exercises, known in yoga as the “mula banda”. I will cover this in more detail in the next blog.

In short, yes size does matter, though for skilful practitioners most issues can be overcome.

Sean x

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